How long do we spend correcting a black liner to match the other eye? It's to the point where we ruin our foundation and go down the rabbit hole. The importance of feeling ready is lost. Our eyebrows are perfect examples of being cousins instead of sisters. The answers are right in front us yet its hard to make peace with asymmetry.
We have been bombarded for years by fashion gurus, and now, influencers, bloggers and tik-tok artists that make you feel that symmetry is achievable in your own homes. Today they have more sophisticated tools in their arsenal to further the idea that symmetry = perfection.
What is symmetry anyway? A quick google search landed me to this definition, ‘correct or pleasing proportion of the parts of a thing’.
Pleasing? Ya right! Isn't that subjective to each one of us who are exposed to various cultures and years of stereotypes that have been forced through different generations? We are all caught up in that web of constant correction. Similarly our fears of symmetry differ. When we hear of someone else's stereotype, we feel distant to their fears but when linked to our own, there is a similar thread. We need to unravel that web before we are eaten up by our sense of perfection. At the same time we need to withstand the trends that rebel one but glorify the next. And may I ask - pleasing to whom? Who is the universal judge anyway?!
I struggled as a teenager to create perfect symmetry. I suffered from OCD in mild forms. Unknown to this, I spent hours adhering to a format hoping the obsession earned me the title of a 'Good Girl'.
In my later years I acknowledged that nature does not follow the laws of symmetry. Yet we enjoy them as is. A butterfly with uneven spots is called beautiful and a leaf with variegation is called unique by your very own 'You'. Then how did we come to be so harsh on our ourselves and our kind? How do we set ourselves to standards where there is no foundation, no truth. A place from where one shall go no where but fall and fall to the absolute truth.
I am talking from this place. The fall was harsh but the place is actually not that bad. I can see things for what they are. A place where nothing is right or wrong, good or bad. It is a sentence that is complete in itself. Does not need an adjective nor a verb for support. I am presenting you this place in an exaggerated form to celebrate the idea of asymmetry. An acceptance that needs to extend to every aspect of your life to find completeness without over working it.
Welcome to ‘As is’.
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